By Kalli Anderson Jun 26, Illustration: Patricia Cavazzini. You just had a baby. And for weeks—maybe months—you are too sore, overwhelmed, maxed out on touch and desperate for sleep to even contemplate having sex. And for a lot of us, resuming our sex lives can be, at best, a bit of a learning curve, and at worst, terribly painful. Many couples start having sex again somewhere in the range of four weeks to six months postpartum.
Back to Your pregnancy and baby guide. It's perfectly safe to have sex during pregnancy unless your doctor or midwife has told you not to. Having sex will not hurt your baby. Your partner's penis can't penetrate beyond your vagina, and the baby cannot tell what's going on. However, it's normal for your sex drive to change during pregnancy.
Cramps and Contractions After Sex During Pregnancy
Early in pregnancy, many women have pelvic pain. Pelvic pain refers to pain in the lowest part of the torso, in the area below the abdomen and between the hipbones pelvis. The pain may be sharp or crampy like menstrual cramps and may come and go. It may be sudden and excruciating, dull and constant, or some combination. Usually, temporary pelvic pain is not a cause for concern.
Even though you know sex is totally safe during the third trimester, and your libido might be running wild, convincing your partner that sex will not hurt the baby can sometimes be difficult. Without bursting his bubble, you should inform your partner that he is nowhere near close to doing so, using descriptive measurements if need be. Women often experience a heightened sex drive during late pregnancy, so feel free to have some fun! Finding a comfortable position can be a bit difficult, but some experimenting and positional creativity should do the trick.