A versatile bottom is someone who is comfortable with a shared dominance in gay relationships. The partner who is being penetrated is referred to as the "bottom" and the penetrating partner during anal sex is referred to as the top. The term can be used in both gay sex and heterosexual sex regardless of position. It has to do with penetration, not actual position.
My first sexual experience happened in a hotel room while other guys in my church youth group slept. He touched me. I touched him. We were trembling. Getting better at bottoming required me to see through all that, and trust my experience.
In human sexuality , top , bottom , and versatile are sex positions during sexual activity , especially between two men. A top is usually a person who penetrates , a bottom is usually one who receives penetration, and a versatile engages in both activities or is open to engaging in either activity. These terms may be elements of self-identity that indicate an individual's usual preference, but might also describe broader sexual identities. A top is usually a person who engages in the penetrative role during sexual activity; for men who have sex with men MSMs , this often involves penetration using the penis during anal or oral sex.
They can be a top — someone who prefers to act as the penetrative partner during anal sex; be versatile — one who is happy to both give and receive; and a bottom — someone who enjoys acting as the receiving partner. There are also subcategories, including vers-top and vers-bottom, but for simplicity, I will focus on the most commonly used positions. As someone who has been both a top and a bottom, I feel that bottoms are totally underappreciated by the gay community — both in terms of the expectations placed on them and the disregard for their effort, comfort and enjoyment.